How Becoming A Mom Changed My Perspective On “Fur Babies”
Before having my first child, I was known for having a Pomeranian side-kick. People would even wish me a happy Mother’s Day and say that I was a mom to my little dog. I agreed with them. He was my fur baby. Then came the real baby…
I remember reading about how having a baby, when your pet was your “baby” before having kids, changes your perspective on pets. I recall reading that it upset some women because they believed that they’d never see their dog as “just a dog” or cat as “just a cat” but would always be a baby to them. I agreed with it, actually. I could never see my little dog as anything other than my puppy love, my dog baby. That’s why it came as quite a surprise when the very moment my son came into this world, everything in my life was different. I stayed at the hospital for two days before coming home with our little guy. While I was in the maternity section of the hospital with my son, and my husband was home getting everything ready and taking care of our dog, he texted me a photo of our dog getting a bath. Normally, I would have been in awe over how cute and adorable he was. I did think it was cute, of course, don’t get me wrong. But even just the photo, when I looked at it I immediately saw him as our dog, not our baby. I felt instantly different about him, although I loved him and still love him very much. He just was not in the same category as my son.
I know this is a controversial topic, and a lot of women understand where I’m coming from and how it feels. There are also women who disagree entirely, and that’s okay. It’s important that we don’t treat our pets with less love and care, especially when bringing baby home, as that can be a huge adjustment and take time for pets to feel comfortable with the changes. It’s mainly a priority thing. Our children should always come before our pets.