Having a healthy marriage should be a top priority before trying to conceive a baby. I’m convinced that the most fragile thing in life is relationships. How much more so when in a marriage, having made a life-long commitment to someone. There are certain things that can happen which make marriage more of a challenge. Things like financial issues (that’s a BIG one), work and family life soar above a lot of issues. If you’re like many couples, having a baby can be quite an emotional (though beautiful) experience. Sometimes, however, the stress of becoming parents can cause couples to become easily upset with each other, and this can lead to real problems down the road.
A Love Connection
It should be a no-brainer, but being in love with your husband is important, especially when you want to have a baby with him. If you’re having any marital problems, it’s best to resolve them and move forward before trying to get pregnant. Being pregnant can cause your emotions to go up and down, and it’s best for you to have a strong, established love connection with your husband. Some couples actually divorce during a pregnancy, due to the mood swings and emotional outbursts. Through thick and thin, when a marriage is strong and there’s a real bond, then whatever happens (within reason) your marriage will stand.
More Than Sex
Baby-making sex shouldn’t be thought of as a chore. Seriously. It’s easy to think of it that way, especially when you are tracking your ovulation and know which days you will be most fertile. But regardless, as much as possible, you should time it and plan for it to be romantic, even memorable. Planning out (and having) a candle-light dinner with food you both enjoy, a romantic setting either at a nice restaurant or in your home, and enjoying your time together can be a lovely prelude to baby-making intimacy. Of course there are a number of ways to set the mood with your husband as you try to conceive, and it’s a good idea to be creative and have fun with the man you love.
Two In Agreement & Desire
Sometimes we women get ahead of ourselves and just want to get pregnant so as to start building a family or add to our existing one. There are many cases where a husband has no idea his wife is trying to get pregnant, and that her reason for being more sexual is for a greater objective and motive than he is aware of. It’s important for both people in a marriage to be in complete agreement that having a baby is what’s wanted, and for both in the marriage to prepare for it.
It can be a lot of added stress for a husband if he’s the only working individual in the household. He may need some time to consider the pros and cons of having another baby in the near future, even though you may be wanting one much sooner. When you plan things out together, and work together as a team, you can enjoy the process and both work towards the same goal. Unity in a marriage is important.