Does Playing With Dolls Make A Boy A Better Dad Later On?
Can you say controversial? It’s become almost a trend of sorts among many parents. There’s an idea roaming about that says if a little boy plays with baby dolls, then he will most likely (by default, thanks to the dolls) become an excellent dad when he grows up and has children of his own. This is speculation, mind you, and is still being studied.
The question that comes into my mind when hearing talk about this subject is, if it’s considered to be “factual” for boys, then wouldn’t the same rule apply to girls? There are many women who loved and adored their baby dolls when they were little girls, who seemed nurturing and loving with the dolls as if they were real babies. Some of these women couldn’t care any less about their babies and children, or don’t want any at all and abort each time they get pregnant. Shouldn’t they (again, by default due to playing with dolls) be natural mommies because of their childhood toys? If a boy plays with a baby doll, even acts like he’s the doll’s daddy, is that a clear indication that he will naturally love and nurture his own future children?
On the flip side of the argument, what about a little girl who likes to play with toy trucks? Does this make her more likely to become a trucker when she’s older? Will she be an even better truck driver than other female truck drivers who didn’t play with such toys when they were children?
In my opinion, it doesn’t matter if a boy or a girl plays with baby dolls. I highly doubt it has any impact on their future parenting skills. Why? Besides the fact that many people forget about the toys they played with during their childhood, a toy is just a toy. A baby doll is an inanimate object that has no needs, wants, and requires zero responsibility. When you call your child for dinner, what’s he or she likely to do with any toy being played with at that moment? It’s often times just tossed to the floor and the child takes off towards the kitchen to eat.
Keep in mind that regardless of gender, young children frequently cling to a blankie (baby/toddler blanket) or a teddy bear. Not a baby doll.
There is something that I believe can help a boy or a girl become a better parent someday, and it has nothing to do with toys.
Want to know what it is? Here goes…
Buy your child a puppy, and let him/her take responsibility for the pet. It will become a personal canine companion, one that needs love and also gives love. One that needs to be fed and taken for walks, and one that will share a mutual affection with your child. This helps in a few different ways, but most importantly, the responsibility that comes with taking care of another living creature. You cannot get this from a toy baby doll.
One might argue that a dog isn’t a baby, and therefore couldn’t possibly help a child become a better parent someday. A better dog owner, perhaps, but not parent. I understand the difference between a dog and a person, but the argument isn’t about species, it’s about love and responsibility. Even a pregnant woman can only “practice” to a small extent with a fake baby. Only when you have that on-demand (often times very challenging) responsibility that comes from taking care of someone else will you truly understand how it all works. Only experience can teach you this.
If little boys want to play with dolls, then I see nothing wrong with it. But I recommend not making assumptions about the doll and his future parenting skills. Let kids play with the toys they choose.